Candle Inspiration for your Bar & Bat Mitzvah

By Audrey Isaac,

As you begin the planning process for your bar or bat mitzvah, you’re likely to come across a number of different options for décor and you’ll have to make some decisions regarding the theme for the party, including the types of candles to use.

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Candle Lighting Display by Balloon Artistry

Photo: Balloon Artistry

Candles play an important role in bar and bat mitzvah celebrations. It’s not just one of lighting and décor, but one of tradition and honor. The lighting ceremony incorporates years of tradition into the celebration and creates unity among the family.

Generally, there are 14 candles to be lit, signifying 13 years of age plus one for good luck. If a bat mitzvah is celebrated at 12 years of age, then there would be 13. To honor family members and guests of honor, they are asked to light the candles to indicate the role that they’ve played in the child’s life and commitment to continue supporting him or her. However, the number of candles is open to change depending on personal preference.

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Cupcake Candle Lighting by Dance Time Entertainment

Photo: Dance Time Entertainment

The question is – what type of candles are the best ones to choose for the celebration? And what is the best way to display them? When considering these questions, let your overall theme guide your choices. While you may opt for LED lighting in other parts of the room, wax candles are used for the lighting ceremony. While taper candles are traditional, a popular trend is to use floating candles atop vases filled with water and flowers, stones, or another thematic detail (be creative!).

Beach Theme Bar & Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Display

Beach Theme Candle Lighting Display at The Sands at Atlantic Beach

Photo: The Sands at Atlantic Beach in Long Island NY

Candles can be placed on individual candleholders or candelabra, usually on a base with the name of the celebrated child. The idea is to display a dynamic presentation of candles at the front of the room that fit the theme as well as his or her personality. This may include presenting the candles among baseballs for your slugger or in cupcakes for that sweet tooth of hers.

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Airplane Candle Lighting from Life O The Party

Photo: Life O’ The Party

In addition to props, candles themselves may be the star of the theme in matching colors or even shapes. Candles come in all shapes and sizes, so be open to looking for other types of candles. When it comes down to it, the design of your bar or bat mitzvah should be up to you. Be as creative as you’d like and always take personal preferences into consideration!

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Audrey Isaac is the spokesperson for, an online market that pairs high quality candles with unmatched customer service. From weddings and birthdays to holiday parties and fundraisers, has enjoyed celebrating life’s biggest moments along with their customers since 2002.

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